Mental Health Monday: The Unmothered Club

For 30 years I had a mother. Now I do not. I am unmothered. I have been meaning to start a Mental Health Monday (MHM) segment on the blog for almost a year now because mental health is something I am deeply passionate about. If my mum were still alive, she would be turning 62 … Continue reading Mental Health Monday: The Unmothered Club

JS Kicking Cancer’s Ass Theme 13 of 13: The Mother Of All Losses

“Hi. How are you? So yeah we’re taking mum to hosi. Everything’s okay, she’s just low on oxygen and is having trouble breathing.” That was what my brother called to tell me at 00:58 a.m. on December 13, 2017. In response I asked him to let me know when they got to the hospital and … Continue reading JS Kicking Cancer’s Ass Theme 13 of 13: The Mother Of All Losses

JS Kicking Cancer’s Ass Theme 12 of 13: The Beginning Of The End

In last week’s post, JS Kicking Cancer’s Ass Theme 11 of 13: The Moments Of Happiness, I shared that I unintentionally took a month-long break from the ‘JS Kicking Cancer’s Ass’ series in November and that I would explain why in today’s post. I put up this post on my Facebook page on Thursday November … Continue reading JS Kicking Cancer’s Ass Theme 12 of 13: The Beginning Of The End

JS Kicking Cancer’s Ass Theme 11 of 13: The Moments Of Happiness

As you have probably noticed by now, I usually kick off posts in the JS Kicking Cancer’s Ass series by giving a little backstory into my mum’s battle with cancer before diving into the post. However, I am electing to do things a little different today seeing as I am picking up my mum’s story … Continue reading JS Kicking Cancer’s Ass Theme 11 of 13: The Moments Of Happiness

JS Kicking Cancer’s Ass Theme 10 of 13: The Coping Mechanisms

After my mum was diagnosed with stage four breast cancer on Friday June 15, 2012, an ironically sunny afternoon, her oncologist recommended chemotherapy followed by a mastectomy then radiotherapy as her treatment plan. After eight rounds of chemotherapy my mum had a mastectomy in December 2012 followed by radiotherapy in January 2013 to target the … Continue reading JS Kicking Cancer’s Ass Theme 10 of 13: The Coping Mechanisms

JS Kicking Cancer’s Ass Theme 9 of 13: The Second Born aka The Nurturer

My mother’s battle with breast cancer is not something I was open to talking about. I do not think I will even manage to fully delve into what that time of our lives was like for me because I am a really private person and it feels like I am sharing my deepest intimate thoughts … Continue reading JS Kicking Cancer’s Ass Theme 9 of 13: The Second Born aka The Nurturer

JS Kicking Cancer’s Ass Theme 8 of 13: The Cancer

October 13th is Metastatic Breast Cancer Awareness Day. It is a day meant to bring understanding to the most serious form of the disease. Many people do not realise that breast cancer itself does not become deadly until it spreads outside of the breasts. In honour of Metastatic Breast Cancer Awareness Day that was yesterday, … Continue reading JS Kicking Cancer’s Ass Theme 8 of 13: The Cancer

JS Kicking Cancer’s Ass Theme 7 of 13: The Anticipatory Grief

Anticipatory grief is the name given to the tumultuous set of feelings and reactions that occur when someone is expecting the death of a loved one usually due to a terminal illness. Grief that occurs before death can be similar to grief after death (conventional grief) but it is also unique in many ways. Grief before … Continue reading JS Kicking Cancer’s Ass Theme 7 of 13: The Anticipatory Grief