September is Suicide Prevention and Awareness Month, with World Suicide Prevention Day observed on the 10th.
Sometimes, having the right information and knowing how to start a conversation can make a difference. So I am dedicating this month’s Mental Health Monday post to suicide prevention and awareness, in the hope that it may help those who are struggling, as well as those supporting a loved one through a difficult time.
An important part of suicide prevention is knowing how to recognise when someone is struggling. Warning signs may include talking or thinking about suicide, expressing feelings that life is meaningless, withdrawing from others, becoming unusually angry or having outbursts when approached, or giving away personal belongings.
Another important warning sign is a sudden change in mood, particularly an unexpected sense of happiness, calmness or relief after a prolonged period of depression or following a suicide attempt. Although this may seem contradictory, such a change can be concerning when it occurs alongside other warning signs, as the individual may feel that they have found a solution to their problems and may have begun making plans to end their life. The key word is “sudden”, as a significant and unexplained shift from emotional distress to unusual calmness or happiness should not be overlooked.
If someone tells you they are thinking about suicide, it is important to remain calm throughout the conversation. If you feel overwhelmed, take slow, deep breaths to help yourself stay composed. Listen to the individual without judgment and let them know that you are there for them and willing to listen whenever they need to talk. Reassure them that it is possible to feel better and that seeking professional help can provide the support they need. Encourage them to connect with a qualified mental health professional, and as a show of support, consider accompanying them to their appointments and waiting for them if appropriate.
It is also important to take care of your own emotional well-being. Speaking with a mental health professional about your experience can help you manage feelings of fear, confusion, sadness or uncertainty. A professional can also guide you on how to respond appropriately and supportively when someone talks to you about suicide.
When a person seems troubled, it is natural to wonder whether it is safe to ask if they are thinking about hurting themselves or whether asking about suicide could increase the risk. It is safe, and often necessary, to ask someone directly whether they are thinking about suicide. Research shows that asking directly does not encourage or increase the likelihood of suicidal behaviour. Instead, it can create an opportunity for the individual to talk openly about what they are experiencing and help them feel heard and supported.
Although this can be a difficult conversation to have, it is important to approach the individual gently and with empathy and understanding. The goal is to create a safe space where the individual feels comfortable sharing their thoughts and feelings honestly.
If the individual says yes, remain calm and continue listening. Show that you care by giving them your full attention and responding without judgment. Acknowledge their openness about such a difficult and painful issue, and let them know that you appreciate the trust they have placed in you by sharing this information. Encourage them to view these thoughts as a sign that it is important to seek professional support for their mental health, and help them connect with a qualified mental health professional who can assess their situation and provide appropriate support.
If there is one thing I hope you take away from this post, it is that we should not be afraid to have these conversations. You do not need to have all the answers to let someone know they are not alone. Asking someone if they are struggling does not make things worse. If anything, it can be the very thing that helps them feel seen, heard, and supported. And sometimes, that can make all the difference.
If you are the person struggling, please remember that support is available and that you do not have to navigate these feelings alone. Reaching out can be difficult, but there are people who can listen, support you, and help you through it.