New goals don't deliver new results. New lifestyles do. And a lifestyle is not an outcome, it is a process. For this reason, all of your energy should go into building better rituals, not chasing better results.James Clear Last week I put up You Cannot Pour From An Empty Cup Part One: Misery that focused … Continue reading You Cannot Pour From An Empty Cup Part Two: Systems
Mental Health Monday: The Unmothered Club
For 30 years I had a mother. Now I do not. I am unmothered. I have been meaning to start a Mental Health Monday (MHM) segment on the blog for almost a year now because mental health is something I am deeply passionate about. If my mum were still alive, she would be turning 62 … Continue reading Mental Health Monday: The Unmothered Club
You Cannot Pour From An Empty Cup Part One: Misery
In my letter to my mum on the third anniversary of her death, I said that 2020 was a really muted year for me and I am hoping for better and MORE in 2021. Call me naïve but I was sooo damn sure that since I wanted it so badly, the better and MORE I … Continue reading You Cannot Pour From An Empty Cup Part One: Misery
Karibu 2021
Let’s try this again, shall we? I’m baaaaaaaaaack!!! Or, to borrow from Emimen: Guess who’s backBack againShady’s backTell a friendGuess who’s back, guess who’s backGuess who’s back, guess who’s backGuess who’s back, guess who’s backGuess who’s back It is only the first day of March but whew chilllleee I feel like I have already lived … Continue reading Karibu 2021
A Day Late and a Dollar Short by Terry McMillan
Book 5/30. My rating: 3 of 5 starsThis is the story of the dysfunctional Price family and it is told from six different POVs: matriarch Viola, her (soon-to-be ex) husband Cecil and their four children Paris, Charlotte, Lewis and Janelle.You often find with books that have multiple POVs, authors tend to title each chapter with … Continue reading A Day Late and a Dollar Short by Terry McMillan
Risky Business by Nora Roberts
Book 4/30. My rating: 3 of 5 starsView all my reviews ** A guide to ratings **1 star – did not like it2 stars – it was okay3 stars – liked it4 stars – really liked it5 stars – it was amazing
See You When I See You
I’m baaaaaaaaaack!!! Or, to borrow from Emimen: Guess who's backBack againShady's backTell a friendGuess who's back, guess who's backGuess who's back, guess who's backGuess who's back, guess who's backGuess who's back That was supposed to be the opening paragraph for today’s Karibu 2021 post, but fucking hell January was ROUGH!!! It started off soooo beautifully … Continue reading See You When I See You
Eleanor Oliphant Is Completely Fine by Gail Honeyman
Book 3/30. My rating: 4 of 5 stars I have been waiting for death all my life. I do not mean that I actively wish to die, just that I do not really want to be alive. Another winning read for 2021 🤩This book is divided into three parts: Good Days, Bad Days and Better … Continue reading Eleanor Oliphant Is Completely Fine by Gail Honeyman
The Month of Lymurit: Finally in New York
I am standing in the shower brushing my teeth as one does. I think about what I am doing; My hair wrapped in a kitambaa, my head tilted backwards with my mouth open and my tongue out as the water hits my face and the insides of my mouth. I smile. Brushing my teeth has … Continue reading The Month of Lymurit: Finally in New York
The Month of Lymurit: Only One
Only some things make me cry at one AM on a Saturday night. Sad movies ending in tears; A heavy dark sky crying and wailing for my help. The thought of my lover gone from me; His death, My resurrection from it; Our ascension; God. Only some things make me cry at two AM on … Continue reading The Month of Lymurit: Only One
